When the rules feel like a cage
“I am worn out from trying to be good, and I do not know what else to try.”
Take Path 01
A collection of paths through the things that actually wear a believer down. Each one runs a few weeks, and each one is written to be walked rather than skimmed.
Am I Saved? Take the assessmentPath 02 · Week 1 of 4 · 10 min
Thirty years in medicine taught me that willpower loses to biology almost every time. That is not an excuse for the thing you keep going back to. It is the reason you cannot fix it, and the reason you have a decision to make.
“I am worn out from trying to be good, and I do not know what else to try.”
Take Path 01
“I keep going back to the same thing, no matter how many times I mean it.”
Take Path 02
“I have been in church for years and I still do not know if it is mine.”
Take Path 03
“I do not know how to stay honest about what is true without becoming cruel.”
Take Path 04One reading. Ten to fifteen minutes. In order, from week one of the path you chose.
A song and one question. Nothing to read. Nothing to do but sit with it.
Every email comes from me and every reply reaches me. What you write is never quoted or published.
Thirty years of exam rooms, read against Galatians 5. The argument is that “the flesh” is not a metaphor — that what Paul describes has a physiology, and that this changes what you should expect of your own willpower.
About the book
Nearly thirty years of medicine taught me that people rarely change until the thing they ignored becomes an emergency. I see the same pattern now when I open my Bible, and I have seen it in myself. What is here does not come from being better or more disciplined than you. It comes from finally understanding I could not get where I was going without surrender.